Chapter 52
Last night before going to bed I flipped through the book Fit From Within. I haven’t read the book in its entirety, but I do flip through it on occasion.
Chapter 52: Stop Comparing Yourself
“Comparing is a game that nobody wins.”
Wow, did I need to read this last night! Let’s see who I compare myself with… Okay, let’s not. But this is clearly an issue in my life right now and something that I think is holding me back.
“Stop comparing yourself to friends, strangers and earlier editions of yourself.”
Check, check, CHECK
“It also discounts who you are right now.”
I’m declaring war on this terrible way of thinking. Beginning today, I will not entertain any thoughts that remotely resemble comparing myself to others. It the words of Susan Powter I will “Stop the Insanity!”
What are your best tips for changing how you think or eliminating negative thought patterns?
I NEED to read that. I compare everything about myself to anything and everything. I usually catch myself in the negative thought and try to stop it, but I wish it didn’t start at all.
I LOVE this post! I use to be really bad about this! I would compare myself to every woman in the room. I’m soooo much better about this now. Every once in a while I catch myself. But I know better now.
Have a great day!
I really need to stop comparing myself, that is something that has always held me back.
Omg, what happened to Susan Powter, I lvoed her? Oh, I tell myself everyone is different and has faults. Nobody is perfect and don’t try to be perfect or you’ll go crazy!
I’m going to have to read this book! I think in the past couple years I have become much better at not comparing myself to others. After many years of doing just that, and getting nowhere, I’ve finally realized it’s pointless and hurtful. I often remind myself that I have traits and attributes about me that are wonderful of and which I should be proud. I try to focus on what I HAVE, rather than what I don’t have. It really helps.
I think it is only human nature to compare yourself to other people. But it can really encourage negative thinking. I also use to compare myself to others and find myself on occassion still doing that. Most times I catch myself and force myself to stop thinking so negatively. I do watch other people and try and learn things from them.
I think I need to read this because I am always comparing myself to others! ALWAYS
I stopped comparing myself to others long ago…because I was always better than them.
I’m horrible at that. It’s so easy to see someone else and imagine their life is perfect because they have thicker hair/can run a half marathon/fill in the blank. The only way I know how to eliminate those negative thoughts is by saying something like, “Oh yeah? Well I have great ____.” Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.
I have issues with negative talk to myself but I find if I catch myself when I start doing it and become conscious of the fact that I’m doing it I can stop myself. But I think most people struggle with these types of feelings at one time or another.
Courtney
adventures in tri-ing
I think that as I get older and more comfortable with who I am, I have gotten better about comparing myself with others. I mean, it’s kind of natural instinct to compare two things, but I don’t let it bother me. Everyone’s different.
so true. your blog is more pink than mine! i would be upset, but i’ve stopped comparing….
haha, thanks for the good luck wishes regarding our house hunt!! Don’t worry, I know you’re not stalking me, I’m NOT stalk worthy!
Very sound advice! I am so guilty of this. When I need some tough love, I scream STOP! STOP! STOP! over and over again in my head until I forget what negative thoughts I was having to begin with. It works. Sometimes.
Now that I’ve had a baby, I definitely struggle with comparing myself to “earlier editions of myself”. Thanks for the encouragement sister!